Ubumnandi... the 411!

I have been meaning to post something for a while now!i wonder how i will pull this one seeing I am suffering from the effects of ubumnandi - namely fatigue and lack of adequate sleep. Many a time I have started blogs and then a whole rush of ideas just flows or somewhere along the lines i lose track and the blog becomes a victim of my delete button.

A lot has happened since my last blog, people have come and gone... nothing new about that - such is life. The surprising thing though is I have had pple in my life and for a while i stopped communicating, in simple terms ngaba'scratcha' for wateva reasons, but i managed to reconcile, forgive and move on. I am sure those who might kno me well may think ... its so unlike me. Maybe it is maybe not, some say yikukhula some say I growing soft, term it wat you may , but life is too short to be holding silly grudges. I have nothing on Mother Theresa, and I aint trying to be like her, I am just being me, deciding to live my life like its golden and have a ball when I can.

So today i decided to dub myself as the First Lady of ubumnandi... a title which i must is well deserved. I do not drink and do not smoke, but whenever there is a function.... i just get a natural high....you'd think I'd taken a few drinks or some weed. I am always the loudest and with that comes the grand prize of being the first to lose my voice.

Life is what you make it out to be. So here are a few tips on ubumnandi from the First Lady herself.

• always wear something comfy ... we all know that when the dj gets on the ones & twos it goes down... you do not want to be wearing clothing that's too tight to the extent that it robs you of the pleasure of letting all loose. While on the clothing subject might i add that while you may want to preserve your sexy with those heels ladies, there aint nothing wrong with removing them shoes and getting your groove. Rather you do it barefoot and have a great time than to pull a Miss America at the Miss Universe Pageant. That being said we move on to the next point,
• self - esteem ... you may run into other people there and maybe because of the way they size u up and down and they may think that they have reduced u to nothing. Take notes. Excuse yourself from the crowd.. go to the ladies room , touch up on your make-up and when you are done, take a good look at that person looking back at ya... that is you... you are beautiful... in your own way. You are IT! now that we've got u bodied, we have to tuck that tummy, chest out and be Naomi Campbell - just her walk not her temper! Strut your stuff - now that you know you are IT ( and I do not mean Information Technology) don't you feel the whole world needs to know that - put yourself on a pedestal so everyone can admire.
• so we've worked on confidence, now we'll work on the attitude. You will probably run into haters and drunk pple who will probably want to set it off. Ignore all that nonsense and tell yourself that it's your time to loosen up & have some fun and nothing is going to stop you from achieving that goal. It's all about you - the IT having a good time, and not about anyone else.

So there you go, I will not credit myself on writing the book on amafaro just passing on some info that might be valid or helpful not only when it comes to having fun but even to daily lives. sometimes we feel insecure, and as such we feel afraid to take charge when need be because we feel insignificant! If you are so insignificant then what is your purpose on earth. You are valuable. We need to boost our confidence and check our attitude - always got to be optimistic. Half the time we are already defeated before we take on challenges, and we forget important scriptures such as "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" and "We walk by faith and not by sight." And we always seem to forget that" we are more than conquerers" - newsflash we are not just achievers but we are over achievers. So let us gather some backbone and take a stand.