Single,sanctified and satisfied

On the last Friday of each month, we have a discussion panelled by the Empowered Ladies Union at Church. I am a relatively new member at Church and had never been to any of these, so when I got a message titled ' Single, sanctified and satisfied' I knew I was so going no second guessing.

What an awesome time of fellowship with other single women. The Panel was made up of women of all walks - Pastors wives, recently married women, widowed women, single mothers and single women who've never been married. All I can say is God is at work y'all.

A few things I learnt :
- Not everyone is designed to get married. If it is God's will for one to be married, it will come to pass , however if not, it is our hope that we accept God's plan and purpose for our lives , for we know that even though he knows the desires of our hearts, what we desire and His will may not be in alignment.
- We ought to be very careful, about the way we approach marriage and other things in life. Sometimes as single women we get caught up in the idea of marriage, to the point where we become obsessed with marriage. When we become obsessed with something,that thing becomes an idol, and our God is a jealous God. So seek ye first the Kingdom of God.
- there will always be pressure from other married people , friends and family. We have to know who we are in Christ and remain stedfast in God. The best way to go through this life is to be productive and enjoy this phase of singleness. Continue to work for the Lord,and once we have proven ourselves fruitful in this phase then will He move us to the next.
- there is nothing wrong with being single. We are complete humans. Wanting to get married doesn't not deem us incomplete, but rather as complete humans who want to be complimented.

At the end of the night, it was encouraging to know that I am not alone, and I felt as though as heavy load had been lifted off.

Now a quick word, to those have asked me when I will get married. Please cut me some slack. I am not God, and I do not know when it will happen, nor do I know if that's His will for my life. Just let me enjoy my singleness. I have not complained about being single, I am single, sanctified and content( satisfied). Food for thought- if you so desperately want me to get married, maybe you ought to lift me up in your prayers. And no I will not go to clubs or visit internet sites to find a man... I was designed to be pursued, so I will not put myself in places that I know fully well I ought not to be at. I will continue to do the 'boring' things,and will not put myself out there, I will however bring it anytime I go out, even if its to the gym, or grocery store, maybe I may bump into him there, and don't dare begin to wonder about looking for a brother at church... cause I have better bizness to take care of ...I am busy seeking God's kingdom and being fruitful in the stage that I am in, if Almighty sees fit to add him, then Glory be to God. Simply put BACK OFF.