On the last Friday of each month, we have a discussion panelled by the Empowered Ladies Union at Church. I am a relatively new member at Church and had never been to any of these, so when I got a message titled ' Single, sanctified and satisfied' I knew I was so going no second guessing.
What an awesome time of fellowship with other single women. The Panel was made up of women of all walks - Pastors wives, recently married women, widowed women, single mothers and single women who've never been married. All I can say is God is at work y'all.
A few things I learnt :
- Not everyone is designed to get married. If it is God's will for one to be married, it will come to pass , however if not, it is our hope that we accept God's plan and purpose for our lives , for we know that even though he knows the desires of our hearts, what we desire and His will may not be in alignment.
- We ought to be very careful, about the way we approach marriage and other things in life. Sometimes as single women we get caught up in the idea of marriage, to the point where we become obsessed with marriage. When we become obsessed with something,that thing becomes an idol, and our God is a jealous God. So seek ye first the Kingdom of God.
- there will always be pressure from other married people , friends and family. We have to know who we are in Christ and remain stedfast in God. The best way to go through this life is to be productive and enjoy this phase of singleness. Continue to work for the Lord,and once we have proven ourselves fruitful in this phase then will He move us to the next.
- there is nothing wrong with being single. We are complete humans. Wanting to get married doesn't not deem us incomplete, but rather as complete humans who want to be complimented.
At the end of the night, it was encouraging to know that I am not alone, and I felt as though as heavy load had been lifted off.
Now a quick word, to those have asked me when I will get married. Please cut me some slack. I am not God, and I do not know when it will happen, nor do I know if that's His will for my life. Just let me enjoy my singleness. I have not complained about being single, I am single, sanctified and content( satisfied). Food for thought- if you so desperately want me to get married, maybe you ought to lift me up in your prayers. And no I will not go to clubs or visit internet sites to find a man... I was designed to be pursued, so I will not put myself in places that I know fully well I ought not to be at. I will continue to do the 'boring' things,and will not put myself out there, I will however bring it anytime I go out, even if its to the gym, or grocery store, maybe I may bump into him there, and don't dare begin to wonder about looking for a brother at church... cause I have better bizness to take care of ...I am busy seeking God's kingdom and being fruitful in the stage that I am in, if Almighty sees fit to add him, then Glory be to God. Simply put BACK OFF.
Sunday, March 28, 2010
Homecoming!
February purposely saw no blog. A lot was going on, and I decided not to to type anything. On the last day I decided to drop in and let my fingers dance on the keyboard, then I decided against it.
We hosted the Winter Olympics which ended on the last day of February. Then we had the Paralympics in March. If you know me well , you know that I would have done anything to be in Vancouver during that time, however it was nice to know that the Olympics where right in our backyard, so yeah you guessed it the Olympics were the culprit. I do not recall being so interested in sports as I was. I mean I cried when Tessa Virtue and Scott moir , danced their way to olympic Gold, and cried when Melissa Hollingworth, cried in front of the nation, when she became fith in her sport. I was engrossed in Hockey games... I was sitting on edge , and cheered Canada on. I tried to catch as much action as I could. O Canada is a song we all grew to know so well. I think if you reside in Canada and you still do not know the National anthem , there is something teribly wrong with you. I remember thinking that at some point if one was to look down from space, Canada would stand out, because of all the red and white that we proudly wore.
During this time I went back to one of my best courses at Uni- Roots to Modern Canada. Over the years we have often tried to define our Canadianess. Often times our identity is tied to what we are not in comparison to our neighbours to the south. Yet, there are many things that make Canada, from being a peaceful nation , excellent human rights record, vast landsacpe, natural resourses, the wilderness, the maple leaf, hockey, the moose , the beaver.... I could go on and on. Maybe unlike most nations our Canadianess, can find its definition in all these things - we just don have that one thing that defines us.
Up until the Olympics, I was Canadian only in the sense that I hold a Canadian passport that grants me hassle free entry into the US. I still think of Zimbabwe as my home, and would often think of Canada as a transitional phase. Among other things, during the Olympics, I became fully aware of what it meant to be Canadian , and came to embrace Canada as my home. The beauty of it all is that I can call Canada my home as much as Zimbabwe is my home, and the beauty of being Canadian is that I don't have to choose, both countries can be my home. It has taken 9 yrs and the 2010 Vancouver Olympics for me to feel at home.
We hosted the Winter Olympics which ended on the last day of February. Then we had the Paralympics in March. If you know me well , you know that I would have done anything to be in Vancouver during that time, however it was nice to know that the Olympics where right in our backyard, so yeah you guessed it the Olympics were the culprit. I do not recall being so interested in sports as I was. I mean I cried when Tessa Virtue and Scott moir , danced their way to olympic Gold, and cried when Melissa Hollingworth, cried in front of the nation, when she became fith in her sport. I was engrossed in Hockey games... I was sitting on edge , and cheered Canada on. I tried to catch as much action as I could. O Canada is a song we all grew to know so well. I think if you reside in Canada and you still do not know the National anthem , there is something teribly wrong with you. I remember thinking that at some point if one was to look down from space, Canada would stand out, because of all the red and white that we proudly wore.
During this time I went back to one of my best courses at Uni- Roots to Modern Canada. Over the years we have often tried to define our Canadianess. Often times our identity is tied to what we are not in comparison to our neighbours to the south. Yet, there are many things that make Canada, from being a peaceful nation , excellent human rights record, vast landsacpe, natural resourses, the wilderness, the maple leaf, hockey, the moose , the beaver.... I could go on and on. Maybe unlike most nations our Canadianess, can find its definition in all these things - we just don have that one thing that defines us.
Up until the Olympics, I was Canadian only in the sense that I hold a Canadian passport that grants me hassle free entry into the US. I still think of Zimbabwe as my home, and would often think of Canada as a transitional phase. Among other things, during the Olympics, I became fully aware of what it meant to be Canadian , and came to embrace Canada as my home. The beauty of it all is that I can call Canada my home as much as Zimbabwe is my home, and the beauty of being Canadian is that I don't have to choose, both countries can be my home. It has taken 9 yrs and the 2010 Vancouver Olympics for me to feel at home.
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