In less than an hour I will have to be on my way to church where I plan to usher in Year 2010, so I will keep this blog short and hopefully sweet.
In many parts of the world they are already in 2010, and in a matter of hours we'll be there too. As I look forward to the new year in anticipation, I am compelled to look at the year 2009 in reflection.
It's been quite a difficult year, we lost friends along the way and many people lost their jobs however God kept and sustained my loved ones and I, and for that I am grateful.
I know 2010 will be an awesome year in which we will experience God in an awesome way, and as I type off my last blog for 2009, it is my prayer that God expands, every aspect of our life, be it our finances, creativity, families etc. I pray God's blessings on all my followers and we'll meet same spot in 2010, with awesome blogs.
Take care and stay blessed!
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Thursday, December 03, 2009
Mr. Right
I have worked in retirement long enough to make a few observations....am I an expert...no , just a mere observer.
In retirement living you meet all sorts of seniors- comedians, flirts, diva, casanova, and even the most miserable pple ever.
The best of these are usually the couples...and the little research that I have done shows that they are the most happiest in the group. Almost always content they hardly ever complain. most admirable is the love that they have for each other... what I believe is true love. From pushing a spouse around in their wheelchair or walker, to accompanying them to the front door, just to part with them for a few moments as the other goes to the bakery or store across the street, to fetching a cup of tea,to making those daily trips to the nursing home or hospital to see an ailing spouse or the silence in which a couple sits and just holds hands as they wait for their room to be cleaned and everything in between , one can't help but observe and admire how these actions are often done with so a lot of love.
Then I begin to wonder...does this type of love still exist? Sixty plus years of being together...what could possibly be the glue to that holds people for decades.I mean a quick look around, there are sky-rocketting divorce rates around us. So what is it that these seniors know, have or do that we don't? For starters they have lived longer than we have and yeah they've been there done that and we have a lot to learn from them.
Slight detour. A friend asked me how I expected to meet Mr Right if I spent all my weekends at home. Truth be told I do not go out that much.And I will confess that I would rather spend my weekend at home than go clubbing.It was while we talking abt this that I kind of made refernce to our older citizens and I got thinking or wondering what their secret(s) may be.
First of I do not mean to burst people's bubble,and am no expert on love, however after a few shots at this thing called love I feel I could throw my 2 cents on the subject. I do not believe in Mr. Right. I think from the time we grow up, we are caught up in prince charming rescues damsel in distress notion.as we upgrade to novels and movies we get caught up in the same notion, so most of us young women end up believing that he is out there...Mr. Right is out there, and at the right time nd place our paths will cross and we'll live happily ever after.And so we set standards(nothing wrong with standards) and we come up with qualities that he must have,and so even when we meet an awesomely great guy, because he is not 6 feet tall, and doesn't drive a BMW, and doesn't dress up in a suit and tie we automatically give them the red cars and tell them to get-a-steeping.
Friend wasn't too happy when I told her that I think that I will be one of those people who might end up alone.I know...your brain maybe going on overdrive trying to figure me out, but read on I will explain in a few. I believe that no one knows me better than I know myself. I've had my qualities too that I look for in a guy, based on who I am am , and where I see myself going. Some of these qualities have been realistic some not, and I have tried to lower my standards and I have ended up settling for less than I deserve.And what exactly is it that she deserves you may wonder?
I choose to answer this by looking at our senior counterparts...and this is how I feel I deserve to be loved.I ought to be truly loved... unconditionally, honestly and patiently, beyond my faults and looks...because when the toll of the yrs has taken all the elasticity of my muscles and body parts start hanging, and wrinkles take residence on my face and am possibly senile I would love to have someone who sees the soul in me and not my mental or physical state.I am not looking for perfect love or the right love, because according to my facts we are imperfect beings, and are incapable of perfect love. Only one being has been able to show perfect love , and that was Jesus.
Back to our generation. I think we have lost our values,and the first sign of hardship we punk out. Yet those before us have been through the Great depression, and wars, and many other life challenges and yet they maintained their resilience and still managed to thrive at love. Fast forward today, we have more technological advances...supposedly to make our life easier yet, we fail to have backbone. The first guy who passes our way we drool at him, and justify our actions as being harmless..."just appreciating", forgetting that everything starts as a thought and that thought stems into an action and before we know it we do not even fight for wat we have coz we have the 'eye-candy' option.
Back to friend and our converstion about supposed Mr. Right, I think that in today's world, very few people would love this old soul the way she deserves to be love. And because I haven't quite figured out how I am going to know if a guy can love me the way I deserve to be loved, I told my friend that I think that I will take a chill pill from the dating scene, and work on me. See all truth is parallel, and I got my flaws too...so I cannot expect what I cannot deliver. The fairy tales have become a mind set and I have to go back to the drawing board and ask the Master to teach me how to love, coz this trying to figure out things on my own has gotten me caught up in a web of a mess.
If I am going to love someone I have to love them right. And the same applies to me if someone is to love me they have to love me right. I owe it to God,and that person who will end up with me in some retirement centre someday, and I owe that to myself.
In retirement living you meet all sorts of seniors- comedians, flirts, diva, casanova, and even the most miserable pple ever.
The best of these are usually the couples...and the little research that I have done shows that they are the most happiest in the group. Almost always content they hardly ever complain. most admirable is the love that they have for each other... what I believe is true love. From pushing a spouse around in their wheelchair or walker, to accompanying them to the front door, just to part with them for a few moments as the other goes to the bakery or store across the street, to fetching a cup of tea,to making those daily trips to the nursing home or hospital to see an ailing spouse or the silence in which a couple sits and just holds hands as they wait for their room to be cleaned and everything in between , one can't help but observe and admire how these actions are often done with so a lot of love.
Then I begin to wonder...does this type of love still exist? Sixty plus years of being together...what could possibly be the glue to that holds people for decades.I mean a quick look around, there are sky-rocketting divorce rates around us. So what is it that these seniors know, have or do that we don't? For starters they have lived longer than we have and yeah they've been there done that and we have a lot to learn from them.
Slight detour. A friend asked me how I expected to meet Mr Right if I spent all my weekends at home. Truth be told I do not go out that much.And I will confess that I would rather spend my weekend at home than go clubbing.It was while we talking abt this that I kind of made refernce to our older citizens and I got thinking or wondering what their secret(s) may be.
First of I do not mean to burst people's bubble,and am no expert on love, however after a few shots at this thing called love I feel I could throw my 2 cents on the subject. I do not believe in Mr. Right. I think from the time we grow up, we are caught up in prince charming rescues damsel in distress notion.as we upgrade to novels and movies we get caught up in the same notion, so most of us young women end up believing that he is out there...Mr. Right is out there, and at the right time nd place our paths will cross and we'll live happily ever after.And so we set standards(nothing wrong with standards) and we come up with qualities that he must have,and so even when we meet an awesomely great guy, because he is not 6 feet tall, and doesn't drive a BMW, and doesn't dress up in a suit and tie we automatically give them the red cars and tell them to get-a-steeping.
Friend wasn't too happy when I told her that I think that I will be one of those people who might end up alone.I know...your brain maybe going on overdrive trying to figure me out, but read on I will explain in a few. I believe that no one knows me better than I know myself. I've had my qualities too that I look for in a guy, based on who I am am , and where I see myself going. Some of these qualities have been realistic some not, and I have tried to lower my standards and I have ended up settling for less than I deserve.And what exactly is it that she deserves you may wonder?
I choose to answer this by looking at our senior counterparts...and this is how I feel I deserve to be loved.I ought to be truly loved... unconditionally, honestly and patiently, beyond my faults and looks...because when the toll of the yrs has taken all the elasticity of my muscles and body parts start hanging, and wrinkles take residence on my face and am possibly senile I would love to have someone who sees the soul in me and not my mental or physical state.I am not looking for perfect love or the right love, because according to my facts we are imperfect beings, and are incapable of perfect love. Only one being has been able to show perfect love , and that was Jesus.
Back to our generation. I think we have lost our values,and the first sign of hardship we punk out. Yet those before us have been through the Great depression, and wars, and many other life challenges and yet they maintained their resilience and still managed to thrive at love. Fast forward today, we have more technological advances...supposedly to make our life easier yet, we fail to have backbone. The first guy who passes our way we drool at him, and justify our actions as being harmless..."just appreciating", forgetting that everything starts as a thought and that thought stems into an action and before we know it we do not even fight for wat we have coz we have the 'eye-candy' option.
Back to friend and our converstion about supposed Mr. Right, I think that in today's world, very few people would love this old soul the way she deserves to be love. And because I haven't quite figured out how I am going to know if a guy can love me the way I deserve to be loved, I told my friend that I think that I will take a chill pill from the dating scene, and work on me. See all truth is parallel, and I got my flaws too...so I cannot expect what I cannot deliver. The fairy tales have become a mind set and I have to go back to the drawing board and ask the Master to teach me how to love, coz this trying to figure out things on my own has gotten me caught up in a web of a mess.
If I am going to love someone I have to love them right. And the same applies to me if someone is to love me they have to love me right. I owe it to God,and that person who will end up with me in some retirement centre someday, and I owe that to myself.
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